Category Archives: life

31 Days of Random Questions – Day 9

What would the child you once were think of the adult you have become?
Little-Girl-Abby would be surprised by all the travel adventures I have had because she liked to stay home a lot. She would be glad I still have close relationships with my family. She would be confused about why I am an accountant until I explained that it is mostly about following rules and sorting money into the right places. She might be horrified at the state of messiness I sometimes let my home fall into.


Filed under life, something to try

31 Days of Random Questions – Day 5

Do you consider yourself a pessimist, an optimist, a realist, an idealist, or something else?
I am an idealist who usually has a plan and a mental picture of how I want things to look or events to happen… Real life almost never looks like my plan, though.

Leave a comment

Filed under life, something to try

How to Change Your Mind… Or Not

As a sister, a friend, and a collegiate ministry staff member, I am occasionally asked for advice. Sometimes I am not sure what to say at first, so I ask questions. On occasions when I know exactly what to say, I still ask questions. I have discovered that most of the time, people need to discuss it or figure out the answer to their dilemma on their own.

For instance, a common question is about whether or not to reverse a past decision. Whether you are reconsidering a relationship change, a job, a school, or something else, there is nothing wrong with reevaluating decisions, the key is to ask insightful questions.

When you think you want to change your mind about a past decision or begin to think you made the wrong choice, ask yourself these questions:
1. What were my reasons for making the original decision?
2. Are those reasons still valid?
3. Do I have new information that I didn’t have previously?
4. Does any new information outweigh the original reasons for the choice?
5. Does any new information reinforce the original reasons for the choice?
6. What would I advise someone else to do in a similar situation? (Sometimes this perspective shift can help me see around purely emotional reasoning. While emotions are valid indicators, mine are changeful and should not be the basis for decisions.)

What other questions would you add? How do you evaluate decisions?

Leave a comment

Filed under advice, life, something to try

Adventures in Kansas City

Waterfall at Crown Center

Recently my boyfriend and I went to Kansas City for a mini-vacation. We did our research before the trip and came up with more fun ideas than we could fit into one trip. Naturally, I have compiled a list of fun-to-try highlights from our trip. Feel free to offer your opinion if you have tried any of these or make other suggestions.

Worlds of Fun – Rollercoasters and spinning rides, what’s not to like? His take: The two best rides were Mamba and Patriot. Also, it is lots of fun that we both like rollercoasters.

Crown Center – A shopping area that includes the Hallmark Visitors Center. We had fun wandering through the quasi-time capsule exhibits of memorabilia that chronicled the growth of both the company and the nation. The bow machine was also fun, I pressed a button and watched it make a small bow to take as a souvenir. Admission (and the bow machine) are free. We also had fun taking photos of the fountains right outside.  His take: The displays were interesting. Our visit also convinced him even more that I run into people I know wherever I go. (Someone I knew in college now works at the visitors center.)

Another fountain with the Crown Center in the background

City Market – A shopping area near downtown that hosts a farmer’s market on Saturday & Sunday. For newcomers, it was hard to figure out where to park, so we ended up walking further than necessary but did not mind. It was also a little confusing to figure out which stands were from local farms and which were retail stores that set up produce on the broad sidewalks. We came away with sweet corn, bell peppers, and peaches!

Pryde’s Old Westport – A gourmet kitchen and home store. They carry a large selection of Fiestaware and many, many other kitchen utensils. When you first arrive, be sure to stop by the main register (upstairs) for a sample of their tea or freshly-roasted coffee to sip while you browse. The only thing I bought was a pound of the whole bean, Italian-roast coffee. His take: It is like the hoarder version of a kitchen store because everything is crammed and piled into very narrow rows. Also, there was a bench near the front where the few men in the store were dropped off by their wives. (The other men may or may not have looked pityingly at him as he happily followed me all over the store.)

Fiorella’s Jack Stack Barbecue – A restaurant serving yummy Kansas City BBQ at several locations around the city. (I actually didn’t eat barbecue the night we went because I was not feeling well, but have had it before.) His take: The food was tasted pretty good but the wait for a table was long when we went on a Thursday night.

The Phoenix Jazz Club – A less-publicized jazz club that is popular with locals. They serve a full menu and appetizers are half-price during happy hour. Try to go when Lonnie McFadden is playing, we enjoyed his gregarious, laid-back style, classic jazz songs, and stories about “the old days.” His take: The only thing that could make it better was if they had a dance floor.

If you are looking for other suggestions of KC activities, check out this guide at Apartment Therapy: A Design Lover’s Guide to Kansas City.

Disclaimer: I do not own any of these businesses and am not paid to recommend anything, I just like them. Now, if someone from one of these places offers me free stuff, discounts, etc. for saying nice things about them, I will be sure to let you know.

Leave a comment

Filed under life

Lows & Highs: March 27-April 2

Last night at Bible study, I may have forgotten to share my low and high from the past week. I was excited about our topic (motivation) and hearing about others’ weeks, so I’ll excuse myself this time.

Low: On Saturday, I took my car to a nearby car wash. As I turned on the power sprayer, the hose began dripping from the very top of the bay and the gentle breeze kept blowing those copious drips of water and detergent right onto my head. It wasn’t a big deal, I washed it off in the shower when I got home.

High: Test week meant no homework assignments for my online class. (Plus I passed the test, which is always a high.)

Leave a comment

Filed under life

Lows & Highs: March 6-12

Last night, I could not think of a low from the past week. I even scrolled back through my schedule but nothing came to mind. My high for the week was visiting Great Bend over the weekend. It was a terrific  weekend full of quality time that involved yummy food, long conversations, relaxing walks, and a funny play (Lil’ Abner).


Explanation of lows and highs

Leave a comment

Filed under life

Lows & Highs: February 27-March 5

On Monday nights, I lead a small Bible study for college students. As an icebreaker, we used to play a short game (which varied from week to week) at the beginning of each meeting. A couple years ago, I introduced the group to “lows and highs,” where everyone takes a turn sharing a lowlight – something they didn’t like – from the past seven days and then a highlight point – something they liked.* You have to start with low and end with high so you end on a happy note.

I like this way of opening our meetings because it lets each person share what has been noteworthy in their life lately and hear from each other. I like that its flexible structure gives us an opportunity to practice good conversation skills of listening, responding, and general turn-taking. (Carrying on a good conversation seems to be a dying art.) The students seem to like the way “lows and highs” lets them tell others about frustrations, problems, triumphs, and joys without complaining or bragging. It gives them a chance be heard on whatever matters to them this week.

Last night, the only low I could think of was that last week was our fiscal month-end at work, when I work longer hours to wrap up the budgets and forecasts for accounting period. Even then, the work went smoothly and I finished earlier than usual. My first high was the murder mystery party I had with some work friends on Friday (everyone wearing tropical costume, acting like silly characters, eating yummy food.) My second high (yes, we are allowed to have more than one!) was when one of the engineers at the party thought that I could not possibly be older than 27.

What are your lows and highs for this week?

*I got this idea from dear friends who share lows and highs at dinner each night with their three children and any guests who happen to be there. The idea to write about it came from a friend who did the same thing here.


Filed under celebrations, life, something to try

What is “quiet time”?

“Quiet time” is a churchy or religious term for time spent alone with Jesus. Common activities during this time are reading the Bible, prayer, writing in a journal, and listening to or singing worship music. For a variety of reasons, some people have moved away from using this term in recent years. To some people it has been overused, to some it sounds far more boring than it is, to some it simply is not a good description of what it is: time spent with Jesus. My dad calls it “God time,” I call it “quality time with Jesus,” another friend calls it “sweet time with Jesus!” (always with an exclamation point). What do you call it?

Leave a comment

Filed under life

Telling the Truth

In a time of deceit telling the truth is a revolutionary act. -George Orwell

Leave a comment

by | February 20, 2012 · 4:46 pm